Marriage Tips 4Life, #152 Learn How To Respect Respect In Your Marriage

January 26, 2015 in Christian Living, Marriage, Relationships by Lon

Respect is on one hand the ultimate tribute you can pay to your mate very early in the relationship while on the other hand, respect is the ultimate challenge in any marriage to become a successful one. It's the law of mankind and humanity. “One who breaks an unjust law that conscience tells him is unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of imprisonment in order to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the highest respect for law.” Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

In respect to how you live in your community of relationships, no one wants to break the law, but the fact of the matter is that respect is a boundary that is mutually recognized in a successful marriage. Have you noticed that when you see a person walking towards you at a fast pace, you have a certain amount of respect for them…especially if they have that fierce look about them that they are on some sort of a mission that sets them apart from everyone around you at the time? There is a sense of respect and determination. When we first got married, I had all kinds of respect for people I didn't know, because they were the then experts in my marriage life. Why? Because like all newlyweds, it is the experience and wisdom well wishes of those others that get you off to a good start in your long term relationship. We don’t even stop to entertain the thought that they may not actually have all the answers. Why? Because that early in your marriage, you don't even know that there are questions to be asked!

I was watching various family and friends as they participated in some of the pre-marital ceremonies with respect to what they were expecting from the upcoming union. All it takes is one good wisecrack to get them going and the good natured barbs just seem to come out of nowhere. Pretty amazing how people look at you one way while speaking about you to another person in a totally different manor. That is when I noticed that the person doing this speaking was not out of sorts or just being funny or anything like was more like it was just their way of taking on the world and letting you know what you are in for. With respect to all those happy folks it was like watching a scene from a movie or a dream where you are in a physical position to see the comings and goings of the the particular activities of married life. They did not seem to speak to me directly, but with every bit of the air of sophistication and respect, they appeared to come over to me and at the same time...just seemed to just pass right through me. That’s when I came to the conclusion that a certain amount of authority and respect must come with their real intentions. Having respect for people as you get up and going in your new married life is quite a challenge in itself, but certainly not an impossibility. Remember, someday somehow somewhere, you will be the author of that respect in your marriage and you will impart that same brand of determination and wisdom to a young couple who find themselves in the same position that you were in at one time.

You are certainly not set out to break the law in respect to other people in their marriages and you do not expect them to disrespect you in yours either. Whether intentional or not, the lifestyle and pace of my new married life has always been designed to command a certain amount of respect (it has always belonged to a much higher power)… and at the same time give back to my spouse the very same kind of authority, respect and commitment. A slight detour from the regular ramblings on marriage, but in the vane of walking down the aisle with a life partner, the amount of respect, authority and commitment that gets shared between the two of you is what can sometimes define the situation that in my case has lasted these 35 plus years. Maybe, just maybe, that is why the walk down the aisle meant to be so is real, love is real and this is where you learn to respect respect in your marriage.

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